Fake Friends

I did in fact writing something similar to this column awhile back entitled "Forever Alone", but this specific Injection of Inspiration blog post will go a bit more in depth. Following a series of events that recently transpired, I thought it was only appropriate to write a post that was somewhat related to the situation at hand. For those of you who've read my #August18 story that I told on Twitter a few weeks back, you'd know that a girl that I had been talking to about a year ago eventually left me for my best friend. I won't repost the entire story here, but after that occurred, it was pretty much all in the past. I make amends with that best friend a few months later and treated it like nothing had ever happened, but I've hardly talked to that girl G since. The last time we actually spoke was Christmas, so you could tell it's obviously been awhile. 

Anyways, the fair I just happened to meet her at last year is an annual event I attend every year that occurs in a town I used to live in. I notified a few of my friends a few weeks ago that I was going and they said they'd get back to me, but never did. Turns out one of my good friends was at the fair with that girl G, so that came as a bit of a surprise. I'm not at all angry over the fact he's more than likely seeing/talking to a girl I used to like, but more so the fact he lied to me. I've known the kid for years, so that was probably the most shocking aspect about the whole situation. So, that leads me to today's topic: fake friends. We've all had them at some point in our lives. They're simply unavoidable. You'll always have that one friend that either turns their back on you when you least expect it or doesn't turn out who they seem to be. As terrible as that may sound, it's the cold, hard truth. The important thing is attempting to not befriend those sorts of people. 

Sometimes you can't tell upon first meeting them, but you must develop trust over time. The key word here is trust. I, for one, don't trust many people. Is that pathetic? Absolutely not. I haven't trusted many people for years. I've had bad experiences in the past that led this to happen, so it's just out of awareness. Do I trust absolutely no one? No, but those that I do trust I know would stay true to me and not act like any of the others. This aforementioned friend apparently didn't want me to know he liked the same girl I did a year ago, and the fact he said nothing about it disappoints me a bit. In some cases, patching things up is necessary, but not when it wasn't your fault to begin with and the opposing person doesn't even bother to apologize. That being said, I'm not going to even waste my time with that "friend" since I have zero tolerance for lying. Will I attempt to seek vengeance on him? No, as I'll just let the situation become irrelevant, but I won't act as if nothing ever happened. I'll keep my distance and I'll obviously not have as much trust for that kid ever kid after what happened. 

I'm not saying don't trust anyone, as you may not have many friends if that were the case. You can trust who you want, but you need to let at least a few people into your social circle. As I've said before, being alone is a choice, and not a bad one at that. But being lonely isn't always fun, and occurs when you don't let people in. If you're on the verge of making a new friend or even forming a relationship, make sure the trust is there. If it's not, the relationship/friendship will fall apart quickly.