It's safe to safe that everyone deserves a second chance. No matter how badly that person screws up, giving them a second chance to redeem themselves is undoubtedly the right thing to do. However, it's common this day in age to keeping giving people an unlimited number of chances, hoping that person won't screw up the next time. By the end of it all, the relationship/friendship becomes so unhealthy that you can no longer trust that person in order to give them another chance, thus forever altering that specific relationship/friendship. So, the question that begs to be asks is how many chances should be given before enough is enough?
Obviously, the answer varies based upon the situation. I, for one, can easily relate. During my long lasting relationship with a certain someone from 2010 to 2011 (which I've alluded to numerous times on Twitter and in past posts), I continuously made mistakes, and being the excellent friend that she was, she'd consistently forgive me and give me another chance. My main issue at the time was that I wasn't making different mistakes and learning from them, I was repeating the same old ones time and time again. Why she continued to be my friend after the first few times is beyond me, but she'd finally break it off a year ago after I had officially crossed the line. I take full blame for that, but it was shortly thereafter that I was petitioning for one more chance.
Almost everyone has the same fear of one day being left alone. But the real question I beg to ask is, what's exactly wrong with being alone? In most cases I've seen, people quickly jump into a relationship to try and find someone that can make them happy because they believe they can't be happy unless they're in a relationship. Honestly, that is the farthest thing from the truth. I didn't realize that until just last year. While it wasn't exactly a relationship, I was involved in a friendship with someone who I looked to make me happy. Usually, I'd wait for this person to talk to me first in order to make myself feel needed. When she didn't speak to me first, I'd usually flip out for no apparent reason and make myself believe I had done something wrong.
Of course, this is a common case of an extremely unhealthy relationship/friendship to have, so after enough times of doing that, it was all over from there. So, following the conclusion of this friendship, I spent a few months thereafter analyzing what I had done wrong and what I could do to fix it. Obviously, my main issue at the time was relying on this certain person was that I spent a majority of my time talking to this person and when I wasn't, I was waiting for them to talk to me first. The point I'm trying to make here is that there's absolutely nothing with being alone and it shouldn't be looked at as a bad thing.
As much as I dislike John Cena's on-screen character, I must admit I'm absolutely infatuated with his signature phrase "rise above hate". He started using it last October apart of his new attire, but it's no longer as common of a theme anymore due to his new green colors despite it being printed in small font somewhere on the new shirt. Nonetheless, when he was using "rise above hate" as his usual slogan, he cut one of my favorite promos during an encounter with The Rock on the Raw prior to WrestleMania. I watch whenever I'm feeling down and feel I, too, need an injection of inspiration.
Earlier this year when I was going through a tough time, I felt like I was being hated, and rightfully so. I wasn't in the best place mentally, so I decided to embrace it rather than ignore it. Once I start developing a positive mental attitude a few short weeks later, I decided that "embracing the hate" (as Kane would say, obviously) was not the smartest decision. Regardless of how happy I was at the time and trying my best not to lead on haters, they'd still be there. Whether you like it or not, you'll always have haters. There's no preventing it. However, dealing with these so-called "haters" is the important thing.