Almost everyone has the same fear of one day being left alone. But the real question I beg to ask is, what's exactly wrong with being alone? In most cases I've seen, people quickly jump into a relationship to try and find someone that can make them happy because they believe they can't be happy unless they're in a relationship. Honestly, that is the farthest thing from the truth. I didn't realize that until just last year. While it wasn't exactly a relationship, I was involved in a friendship with someone who I looked to make me happy. Usually, I'd wait for this person to talk to me first in order to make myself feel needed. When she didn't speak to me first, I'd usually flip out for no apparent reason and make myself believe I had done something wrong. Of course, this is a common case of an extremely unhealthy relationship/friendship to have, so after enough times of doing that, it was all over from there. So, following the conclusion of this friendship, I spent a few months thereafter analyzing what I had done wrong and what I could do to fix it. Obviously, my main issue at the time was relying on this certain person was that I spent a majority of my time talking to this person and when I wasn't, I was waiting for them to talk to me first. The point I'm trying to make here is that there's absolutely nothing with being alone and it shouldn't be looked at as a bad thing. It gives you a chance to explore new things that you couldn't do while engaged in that relationship or friendship. It removes the "dead weight" that was holding you back to begin with, now allowing you to fulfill your true potential. However, being in a relationship is an awesome thing as well, but it should be the only thing that makes you happy or occupies your time. Finding something else to do that keeps you busy and something you enjoy doing will be the key to your success in finding joy in being alone. Let's also forget that even after a break-up of any kind, you've still got your friends and family, so you'll never be completely alone.
Some people will make themselves believe that since being alone is looked at as a bad thing, they'll be forever alone and never be happy again. Having that kind of mindset will hardly get you anywhere, as no one wants to connect with someone that has that kind of negative mentality. I'll cover the topic of relationships in a future post, but for now, I hope you throughly enjoyed today's installment and successfully received your daily dose of Injection of Inspiration. |
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